Monthly Archives: July 2011

Give up to gain

W.E.B. Du Bois, Gelatin silver print c.1911,

W.E.B. Du Bois c.1911

“The most important thing to remember is this: To be ready at any moment to give up what you are for what you might become.”

~ W.E.B. Du Bois

Do you want to become something different than you are right now? No matter the change you want from yourself, you’ll need to give up something in order for the change to occur in your life. It might be something perplexing, like removing yourself from a circle of close friends, or having to choose something that would anger a longtime friend. When considering a change to make in your life, always do what is best for you in the long run. Why the selfish action? Because no one cares for you as much or knows you better as you do yourself. Being selfish sometimes is not bad as long as it benefits one or more people in a spiritually positive manner. If there isn’t anything spiritually-related to your selfish act, then it is truly selfish since it is done just for personal gain. Personal evolvement is made with proper progress requiring good judgment at precise moments. 

Make a wish

Statue of Confucius at the Confucius Temple of...

Statue of Confucius in Shenyang, China

“What you do not wish for yourself, do not do to others.”

~ Confucius

Zi gong (a disciple of Confucius) asked: “Is there any one word that could guide a person throughout life?”
The Master replied: “How about ‘shu’ [reciprocity]: never impose on others what you would not choose for yourself?”

If you want to make a substantial improvement in your life, then start by doing more for yourself rather than asking others to do things for you. Don’t be a burden to others if you’re able to do something by yourself. You’d be surprised how much we ask of our family and friends. You’d also be surprised to know that doing more yourself will make you smarter, more confident and less dependent. Start today by doing more for yourself which will allow others to do more for themselves. Liberate others and yourself!

Take me higher and higher

A Tang Dynasty portrait of Confucius (by Wu Da...

Confucius (ChunQui Dynasty)

“The higher type of man clings to virtue, the lower type of man clings to material comfort.  The higher type of man cherishes justice, the lower type of man cherishes the hope of favors to be received.”

~ Confucius (551-479 BC) Chinese Philosopher

If you want to know what defines some people from the masses, read the quote above from Confucius again. It’s easy to be like most people who seek to have as much stuff as possible and expect much to be given to them. The virtuous people aspire to be great by doing things for other people without any expectation or anything in return. The person in the mainstream of life will do their best to acquire as many material things as they can even at the cost of their dignity and/or at the cost of others, including friends. Don’t allow yourself to cling to a place in life where you feel you need stuff to be happy. Let go and cling to another place where you can find your true self by doing things you never thought possible. Get liberated and you’ll find enlightenment.

Who are you?

Online/Offline Personality

Personality Chart

You can generally place people in four quadrants: Amiable; Expressive; Analytical; and Driver.

If you want to increase your success of building better business and/or personal relationships, then first you need to understand what kind of person you are among the 4 quadrants listed above. I am in between Amiable and Expressive with some Analytical. Since I know what kind of person I am, I know I need to find others who share my personality pattern if I want the best chance at a successful relationship. Two people who get along in a friendly manner are also inclined to work well together too. So, there really aren’t any negative factors with finding people who are more like you since you’re most suitable as best friends and/or doing business together. This is a perfect marriage that can bring forth wonderful benefits. If you want to sharpen the other personality types that you don’t possess, then make some new friends who fit those types and you’ll be on your way to finding: stress, love/hate emotions, fear, passion play, bitterness, self-reflection, etc. Aren’t relationships fun. My advice: Always be on the lookout for someone who is just like you.

You’ve got a friend

JT (album)

James Taylor

“People should watch out for three things: avoid a major addiction, don’t get so deeply into debt that it controls your life, and don’t start a family before you’re ready to settle down. ”

~ James Taylor

Wise words from someone who has seen a lot in his life – stardom, drug addiction, a famous marriage and divorce, lost millions of dollars, etc. JT has always been one of my favorite singer/songwriters. I saw him in concert in 2003 at the Hollywood Bowl and he sounded great as he always does. I suppose because James is a Pisces like myself, I feel an affinity to him. One of my favorite songs he sings is “You’ve Got A Friend” (lyrics below) that has surely brought encouragement to millions of people who needed that song when they were friendless. Try to be better friends to the ones you have and friendlier to those who could be friends.

“You’ve Got A Friend” by Carol King
When you’re down and troubled
and you need a helping hand
and nothing, whoa nothing is going right.
Close your eyes and think of me
and soon I will be there
to brighten up even your darkest nights.

You just call out my name,
and you know whereever I am
I’ll come running, oh yeah baby
to see you again.
Winter, spring, summer, or fall,
all you have to do is call
and I’ll be there, yeah, yeah, yeah.
You’ve got a friend.

If the sky above you
should turn dark and full of clouds
and that old north wind should begin to blow
Keep your head together and call my name out loud
and soon I will be knocking upon your door.
You just call out my name and you know where ever I am
I’ll come running to see you again.
Winter, spring, summer or fall
all you got to do is call
and I’ll be there, yeah, yeah, yeah.

Hey, ain’t it good to know that you’ve got a friend?
People can be so cold.
They’ll hurt you and desert you.
Well they’ll take your soul if you let them.
Oh yeah, but don’t you let them.

You just call out my name and you know wherever I am
I’ll come running to see you again.
Oh babe, don’t you know that,
Winter spring summer or fall,
Hey now, all you’ve got to do is call.
Lord, I’ll be there, yes I will.
You’ve got a friend.
You’ve got a friend.
Ain’t it good to know you’ve got a friend.
Ain’t it good to know you’ve got a friend.
You’ve got a friend.

Be like Mike?

Former basketball player Michael Jordan

Michael Jordan

“The potential of the average person is like a huge ocean unsailed, a new continent unexplored, a world of possibilities waiting to be released and channeled toward some great good.”

~ Brian Tracy

If you’re an average person, then consider yourself something special. If you start looking at yourself as someone who can do great things in this life, then you are on the right track to actually doing it. Michael Jordan was an average basketball player in high school but became the greatest in the game when he imagined himself being better than average. If you really want to be somebody special in life, then realize your full potential and make a difference for yourself and to others. Do what MJ did and become great. You’ll never regret it.

Protective coating

Wiserhood Crest of Integrity

Crest of Integrity

“Confidence on the outside begins by living with integrity on the inside.”

~ Brian Tracy

Confidence without integrity is nothing more than arrogance. Integrity is the key ingredient for anyone wanting to live a life that’s beyond reproach, and is esteemed, honorable, and desirable.  If you want a strong coat of confidence to help you through life, you need to be full of integrity to the very core of your existence. This combination gives you something that is untouchable and enviable; so do all you can to build yourself into someone who is known for doing the right things at the right time to the right people. Right on!