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Let your talent speak for you

“When your work speaks for itself, don’t interrupt.”

~ Henry J. Kaiser

If you are talented at something and people validate your talent through their words and gestures, don’t make the mistake of ruining their opinion of you by opening your mouth. The only way to excellence is to consistently improve yourself every single day. The real challenge to this statement is HOW do you change yourself. What methods do you need to incorporate into your life to be the best you can be? There are many excellent books written about this subject. Read some and learn from them and start becoming the person you thought you could never be – someone who others admire for their talents. Then, you won’t need to tell everyone how great you are; they’ll be able to see it in your silence. Remember, we have two ears and one mouth. Therefore, we should listen twice as much as we speak. Let your talent shine on through you and on to others without any words spoken. Create it today!

Creation Creature

Special thanks to Tim Coffey for use of his illustration.

Marry well and you’ll be well

“A mother should give her children a superabundance of enthusiasm, that after they have lost all they are sure to lose in mixing with the world, enough may still remain to prompt and support them through great actions.”

~ Julius C. Hare (1795-1855)  English Cleric

Children need lots of encouragement everyday to get through their lives. If they are blessed with a mother (and father!) who raise them up in a manner that others admire and desire, then they will most likely go on to have successful families. To accomplish this, you must “marry well.” While the phrase “marry well” is typically used to describe people who marry someone rich, I am talking about something entirely different: genetics. Apparently, longevity genes can be inherited. According to a February 2005 study in Mechanisms of Aging and Development, exceptional longevity and healthy aging is an inherited phenotype across three generations. So, for you single people out there, pick a spouse whose grandparents are still alive. This won’t make you live longer, but it might help your children. Then you’ll have a better chance knowing that your children will care for you as you get older. Bless all the mothers and fathers of the world. Let them know today that you love them for all they have done for you.

Nurturing Flower

Special thanks to Tim Coffey for use of his illustration.

Emotions in motion

“The sign of intelligent people is their ability to control emotions by the application of reason.”

~ (1904-1990) American Journalist

Marya Mannes

Controlling one’s emotions is so important to one’s character and for so many reasons. People judge us very critically based on how we react to certain actions, verbal statements and/or in-actions. If you want to be considered intelligent by your peers and to strangers that you’re in control of yourself in all situations, then all you have to do is not overreact emotionally. To accomplish this, I have found that it is best to think “big picture” so that you always have a clear perspective of the situation. This gives you some control. It’s also a good idea to count to 10 before you react to something. By doing this, you’ll most likely find that by the time you reach number 1, you will have cooled down enough to handle the matter without so much emotion attached to it. Try it next time and see what happens. 10, 9, 8, 7, 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, all is OK now.

Act tactfully

“Tact is the knack of making a point without making an enemy.”

Howard W. Newton

~ Howard W. Newton

tact: a keen sense of what to do or say in order to maintain good relations with others or avoid offense

Would you like to make new friends and keep the friends you have now? Then be more tactful. Saying the right thing at the right time or the wrong thing at the wrong time can be the difference between keeping or losing a friend. And if your words are tactless, then you’ll possibly make an enemy. Words can be either very sharp like a sword or sweet like the taste of honey. Choose your words carefully in every instance when communicating with those you care about. Being tactful in their presence will earn you much respect and admiration. Please consider these tactful words from me to live by.

Your life or lips?

Oliver Goldsmith

Oliver Goldsmith

“You can preach a better sermon with your life than with your lips.”

~ Oliver Goldsmith (1728-1774) Irish Writer

Lip service never did any good for anyone except those who like to hear only what they want to hear. It’s easy to say something to someone and act like you mean it, but without action behind the words they only tickle the ears. Words are powerful but they cannot match the power of action. If you want to touch someone’s heart with your words, then you must accompany the words with liveliness to push them from your lips into the essence of their being. True friendship requires doing whatever is necessary to convince each other’s soul that you will do anything to preserve the friendship or love between you and them. Do more than tell someone you love them or like them — show them! A little action goes a long way. And a lot of action generates remarkable results.

Big ideas. Small words.

“To get your ideas across use small words, big ideas, and short sentences.”

~ John Henry Patterson

John Henry Patterson

For the most part, I write my blog posts in the same manner as described above. My intent is to share ideas that are big in meaning, easy to understand and even easier to apply in our daily lives. Accomplishing this feat is not as easy as it seems when one simply is putting words on a page. Text has no emotion attached to it nor does it have a sound, so my words ought to breath life into the passages I write in my blog in order for them to be felt. That breath must transmit into something that is compelling to the reader in such a way that it moves them into action. The action then becomes a habit that in some way improves their quality of life for a period of time – whether it be a short or very long time. I hope that I am able to make myself perfectly clear to you with my words, no matter how big or small. They are meant to be clever, coercive, concise, crystalline and never confusing.

Imagery becomes reality

La conscience

Dream Imagery

“The images we create of ourselves that people all over the world see is their reality of us. With this power, our responsibility to others should be to transmit truth, virtue and nobility.”

~ James Filbird

Everybody wants to win, be heard and understood, and in doing so overlook the fact that we can damage both ourselves and others in this pursuit. Since things always start at the level of thought or perception or feeling, controlling the images we create of ourselves must be a conscience act. Right now, today, choose to make a friend, make a difference, and make a different world possible for all of us. Start by creating a reality of yourself that others see you from which compels them to imagine themselves as a part of your image. Be a mirror image of them. Imagine that if you can.