To speak or not to speak? This is the question.
Justice Louis Brandeis, in his compelling opinion nearly seventy-five years ago in the criminal syndication case of Whitney v. California, in which he articulated the premise of what today is known as the “Doctrine of Counterspeech.” Here is a brief excerpt from his opinion (at the URL below):
“When it came to expression that was perceived by some to be dangerous, threatening, or harmful, Brandeis famously wrote, “If there be time to expose through discussion the falsehood and fallacies, to avert the evil by the processes of education, the remedy to be applied is more speech, not enforced silence.”
Brigham Young University’s 2000 Law Review (archives) titled “Counterspeech 2000: A New Look at the Old Remedy for “Bad” Speech” by Robert D. Richards and Clay Calvert. The article has a lot of interesting points worth considering. Tell us what you think and say what you will, while we all get educated from your speech.
“The virtues which keep this world sweet and the faithfulness which keeps it steadfast are chiefly those of the average man.”
~ W. Russell Bowie
Perhaps the sweetest thing in this world is being true to those you love the most and them loving you in return. The ability to love is within each of us and belongs to everyone. You don’t have to be educated at an Ivy League school, be a churchgoer at a popular church, have perfect parents, or have a large circle of friends to know how to show your affection and appreciation for the people closest to you. The only requirement needed to manifest your love for someone is with words, action, touch — all done with sincere desire. This is something the average person can do any day of the week and at any time of the day. In being average, we give life to everything around us which gives life to the world in which we live. So, it’s OK to be average as long as you love with all your being and do it faithfully. Doing this makes you awesome!
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“Adversity has the effect of eliciting talents which, in prosperous circumstances, would have lain dormant.”
~ Horace (65-8 BC) Roman Poet
When you are at your worst emotionally and physically, you tend to find something that has been hidden deep inside you that you never knew you had — the wherewithal to work your way through the pain you are so burdened by. Like anything that has a luster to it, the process of getting that shine that is so appealing requires many years of wear and tear, and pain and suffering. So, always remember that when you’re experiencing discomfort, agony, sorrow, loneliness, displeasure and turmoil, just realize that you are getting closer to discovering the treasure that lies within you. Once found, the sparkle and awe that people now see in you will bring so much pleasure, strength, hope, and appeal to not only yourself but to those who can see the treasure within you. Have you found the treasure within you yet?
Today is my birthday. All I want for my special day today is to one day be included in the list below of famous Pisceans (people born under the Pisces astrological star) before I leave this world. To be in this list of famous and inspiring individuals would be both an honor and a dream come true. Ironically, many of these people are my favorites in their respective fields. Ex: Steve Jobs and Michael Dell (entrepreneurs), Albert Einstein and Joseph Pulitzer (visionaries), George Harrison, Eric Clapton, Aretha Franklin and Elton John (musicians), Michaelangelo (artists), George Washington and Constantine the Great (leaders/statesmen), Arthur Schopenhauer and Longfellow (writers/philosophers), Tony Robbins (speakers), Ansel Adams (photographers), Shaquille O’Neal and Mario Andretti (sports), and most all the actors listed below are among my favorites. I urge you to you look up what famous people were born under your astrological star sign and see if it inspires you. Even if you don’t believe in astrology, it’s quite interesting to see what other great people throughout history share your astrological sign.
PISCES IN POLITICS / WORLD LEADERS / SOCIETY FIGURES
Chelsea Clinton *
John F. Dulles
Czar Alexander III
Constantine the Great
Ruth Bader Ginsburg
Cardinal Roger Mahoney *
Josh Groban *
Andrew Lloyd Weber
Sir Elton John
Nat “King” Cole
Jon Bon Jovi
PISCES ACTORS / WRITERS / DIRECTORS/TV PERSONALITIES
Robert Downey Jr.
Fred (Mr.) Rogers
Joan Bennet *
Joanne Woodward *
Benicio Del Toro
Buffalo Bill Cody
Jennifer Love Hewitt
Elizabeth Taylor *
William Demarest *
Freddie Prinze Jr.
William H. Macy
PISCES INNOVATORS & VISIONARIES
Alexander Graham Bell
PISCES PHILOSOPHERS, POETS, PLAYRIGHTS & WRITERS
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow *
Irwin Shaw *
Elizabeth B. Browning
Oliver Wendell Holmes
PISCES SPORTS FIGURES
Gene Sarazen *
James Worthy *
Raymond Berry *
Floyd Mayweather, Jr.
Dr. Julius Irving
* denotes those born on 2/27 which is my birth date.
“When nothing is sure, everything is possible.”
~ Margaret Drabble (1939-) English Novelist
Not sure what you want in life or how to get it? Having a clean slate with regard to what is possible or not is the first step in finding what you want. Another very important element to getting what you want in life is a positive attitude that gives you the momentum each day to persistently progress. To do this, you need to treat everyday as if it is a party and you’re celebrating all the opportunities you have in life. Since everyday your alive is a gift for yourself and others, be sure and invite your friends and loved ones to your party everyday and celebrate life. Remember that it’s OK to get drunk on life and love because the hangover is healthy and heals whatever ails you. Party on!
Having a Ball
Special thanks to Tim Coffey for letting me use his illustration in this post. You can view his blog at: http://timcoffeyart.wordpress.com
“The work an unknown good man has done is like a vein of water flowing hidden underground, secretly making the ground green.”
~ Thomas Carlyle (1795-1881) Scottish Writer
In nature we see a plethora of beauty – plants with colorful flowers; magnificent trees; green pastures; desert cactus; and whispering willows. Yet, we don’t really give much thought to how they actually got there as much as we do enjoying their infinite exquisiteness and allure. Can you think of anything you can do to better the world around you? How about enriching someone’s life with your kindness, generosity, and time. Maybe you are inspiring people with your artistic talents by painting the world around you with your colorful words and/or vivid images. In your life, you must do your best to initiate the same effect as nature’s beauty has on us so that others can enjoy the fruits of your secret nourishment. Are you making the world a better place to live in through your silent work?
“To be WRONGED is nothing unless you continue… to REMEMBER it”
We’ve all been wronged before to some extent. No matter how badly you’ve been hurt by someone, there is only one real method of erasing it from your life – forgetting about it. If you allow it to fester in your mind and eat away at the part of you that is strong and good, then you will become diseased by it and it will erode away at your soul. If something is bothering you about what somebody did or said to you and it is somehow destroying your life, then stop thinking about it. If whatever they did to you hasn’t hurt you physically, then don’t let that action get the better of you. If you want to move forward with your life and grow bolder from the experience, then forgive them and you’ll be able to go about your life all the wiser and emotionally stronger. Now that’s something you never want to forget.
“Don’t speak unless you can improve on the silence.”
~ Spanish Proverb
Vision of Silence
This is a very powerful statement if you really stop to ponder it. How many of us can remain silent for the sake of not saying something that is better than the silence itself. In silence, we can find inner peace, listen to our soul, hear all the things around us, and most of all we can rest our mind. When was the last time you said nothing while in the presence of others or even when alone? Try listening to yourself today and everyday for at least 15 minutes and see yourself transform into something lovely. While in this meditative state, listen carefully to your mind and soul for an awe inspiring message that could lead you to somewhere beautiful in your life. I can’t hear you and it’s a good thing. Shhh…stop now and listen to yourself.
“It is only possible to live happily-ever-after on a day-to-day basis.”
~ Margaret Bonnano
Living a happy life requires a daily devotion to it. This means going to bed with the hope of a better tomorrow and acting on having a better day as you go through the motions of your daily routine. It also means waking up with joy for the chance to live another day that can make your world better and the world around you better. Life is a gift, so we must make the choice to live it with happiness, hope, health and harmony. As you live your happy life, be sure and tell all those around you how happy you are and you will soon see their happiness shine back at you. This is something that lasts forever if you give your happy attitude away for free to everyone. Being high on happiness is the best kind of high for all of us. Remember, happiness is only real when shared.
“The sign of intelligent people is their ability to control emotions by the application of reason.”
~ (1904-1990) American Journalist
Controlling one’s emotions is so important to one’s character and for so many reasons. People judge us very critically based on how we react to certain actions, verbal statements and/or in-actions. If you want to be considered intelligent by your peers and to strangers that you’re in control of yourself in all situations, then all you have to do is not overreact emotionally. To accomplish this, I have found that it is best to think “big picture” so that you always have a clear perspective of the situation. This gives you some control. It’s also a good idea to count to 10 before you react to something. By doing this, you’ll most likely find that by the time you reach number 1, you will have cooled down enough to handle the matter without so much emotion attached to it. Try it next time and see what happens. 10, 9, 8, 7, 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, all is OK now.
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“Everything you want is on the other side of fear.”
~ Jack Canfield
“Be bold, and mighty forces will come to your aid.”
~ Basil King
What’s stopping you from getting what you want in your life? It’s probably yourself. It may not be your lack of effort, but your methodology. It may not be a lack of real desire, but your mental attitude. It may not be the amount of devotion you give, but a lack of persistence. In order to break through to the other side of life and find that peaceful place you dream of, you need to penetrate the wall of fear. Fear is a great motivator but peace, love, and harmony are greater motivators. Choose to be motivated by all the beautiful things that conquer fear. If you can be this bold, you’ll break through to the other side of life with the all the mighty forces you need to experience a slice of heaven on earth. Empower yourself each and every day and discover a new you that can DO! DO! DO!
“If you keep thinking about what you want to do or what you hope will happen, you don’t do it, and it won’t happen.”
~ Joe DiMaggio
Unless you actually make something happen that you want to happen, it won’t happen at all. Instead, what will happen is what you don’t want to happen — the opposite of what you wanted to happen in the first place. For example: If you want to be a happier person, then you have to gain control of who you are at this moment in your life and choose to be happier. Don’t wait for it to happen; make it happen! Then and only then will you find true happiness. So, today start choosing to make the things you want to happen in your life HAPPEN! Now that’s something you can be happy about.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Continuous effort, not strength or intelligence is the key to unlocking our potential.”
~ Liane Cardes
“Big jobs usually go to the men who prove their ability to outgrow small ones.”
~ Ralph Waldo Emerson
It takes a lot more than being smart and flexing your muscles to get you what you want in life. It requires that you use all your wisdom, persistence, skills, patience and timing to achieve this task. In using all these abilities, you must outlast and overcome all the struggles that come your way as you rise to the top. You must prove to others and yourself that you can conquer the obstacles that you are faced with before you can elevate to the next level or position you seek for yourself. So, if you really want that promotion you’ve been jockeying for, or to lose weight, or get the attention of that person you’ve been admiring for ages, then you’re going to have to make the big step upward. Engage yourself in such a manner that you’re always moving forward no matter how slowly you move until you’ve reached your final destination. Then you can relish and cherish your accomplishment, but not for too long; you have other achievements to acquire.
“The soul is made for action, and cannot rest till it be employed. Idleness is its rust.”
~ Thomas Traherne
The soul is the engine of our body. It was made to operate at all speeds and provide us with all the power we need to excel in our life. It needs to be nourished with high-octane fuel that can generate peak performance and longevity. It should be maintained properly so that if can go the distance without fail as we travel along life’s many roads. Is your soul a mo-ped engine or a big block V-8 that can produce more than enough horsepower to get you through life’s many steep hills and treacherous valleys? Whatever size and power your soul’s engine is, make sure you don’t let it sit idle for too long. Not using your body’s engine is the worst thing you can do; it will prevent you from getting you where you need to go in life dependably. Ladies and gentleman…start your engines!
“There is nothing so comfortable as money, but nothing so defiling if it be come by unworthily; nothing so comfortable, but nothing so noxious if the mind be allowed to dwell upon it constantly. If a man have enough, let him spend it freely. If he wants it, let him earn it honestly.”
This quote by an unknown author is one of my favorite quotes concerning the subject of money. It’s simple to understand and should make sense to most anyone who reads it. Following is my take on the quote’s meaning. In the pursuit of making money, don’t go crazy thinking about it or lose yourself while earning it. Spend it freely and as you wish but in such a way that you do good with it. If you can do this, you should be able to live a comfortable lifestyle if you’re able to control yourself from becoming a slave to money. And your overall physical and emotional state of health should improve as well. Don’t ever allow yourself to be corrupted by money and never allow yourself to be loved or admired only for your money. Remember that money can’t buy the most valuable items in life — health, time, friendship and love. Now that’s advice that won’t cost you a dime.
“Tact is the knack of making a point without making an enemy.”
Howard W. Newton
~ Howard W. Newton
tact: a keen sense of what to do or say in order to maintain good relations with others or avoid offense
Would you like to make new friends and keep the friends you have now? Then be more tactful. Saying the right thing at the right time or the wrong thing at the wrong time can be the difference between keeping or losing a friend. And if your words are tactless, then you’ll possibly make an enemy. Words can be either very sharp like a sword or sweet like the taste of honey. Choose your words carefully in every instance when communicating with those you care about. Being tactful in their presence will earn you much respect and admiration. Please consider these tactful words from me to live by.
“You can preach a better sermon with your life than with your lips.”
~ Oliver Goldsmith (1728-1774) Irish Writer
Lip service never did any good for anyone except those who like to hear only what they want to hear. It’s easy to say something to someone and act like you mean it, but without action behind the words they only tickle the ears. Words are powerful but they cannot match the power of action. If you want to touch someone’s heart with your words, then you must accompany the words with liveliness to push them from your lips into the essence of their being. True friendship requires doing whatever is necessary to convince each other’s soul that you will do anything to preserve the friendship or love between you and them. Do more than tell someone you love them or like them — show them! A little action goes a long way. And a lot of action generates remarkable results.
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“I’m a survivor – a living example of what people can go through and survive.”
“It is very strange that the years teach us patience – that the shorter our time, the greater our capacity for waiting.”
“If it is not to make the world better what is money for?”
~ Elizabeth Taylor
Elizabeth Taylor may have been sassy, but she also said some things that were pretty inspirational too. She was a screen goddess and the admiration of many leading men in Hollywood during her prime. In her later years, she championed finding a cure for AIDS and devoted her life to charity. I share a birthday with Elizabeth which is one reason why I admire her personality and philosophy so much. When I think of her, I always remember how she battled every difficulty in her life with success along with her constant desire to help others who were less fortunate than her. She will always be an inspiration to me and hope she is to you too. Long live her spirit and beauty.
“Just remember, once you’re over the hill you begin to pick up speed.”
Getting old isn’t so bad as long as you look on the bright side of aging – just like Schopenhauer did when he wrote the brilliant statement above. There are definitely advantages to growing old that help people understand life in a more lovely way. When one has matured enough, they can see life as those who are younger cannot because they can see over the “fence” that blinds those who aren’t experienced or mature enough to see over it. Even if someone is able to peer over the “fence” that wiser, aged people can see over, it doesn’t mean that they will comprehend what they see. So, for all you young people reading this, find yourself a mature, wise mentor who can steer you in the right direction as you travel along life’s long, perplexing and troublesome journey. Be sure and bring your crash helmet because people “over the hill” travel faster than you do. Just keep on truckin’ at full speed.
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“Mistakes are part of the dues one pays for a full life.”
~ Sophia Loren (1934- ) Italian Actress
If you want to live a full life, you’re going to have to accept the fact that you’re going to make mistakes along the way. Since life isn’t perfect and neither are we, it shouldn’t be difficult to endure the obstacles you face in your path to a full life. If you reviewed every wonderful person’s life you admire, you would surely see that they committed many mistakes in their life. They would most likely attribute their success to those mistakes, no matter how big or small they were. The worst that can happen when overcoming mistakes is to conquer them, so look at each one as an opportunity to improve yourself. Mistakes will bring you meaningfulness.