“He who finds diamonds must grapple in mud and mire because diamonds are not found in polished stones. They are made.”
~ Henry B. Wilson
A scattering of “brilliant” cut diamonds.
To become something that is brilliant from every angle, from within and without, sometimes you must live a life in the dirtiest place on earth. This place is not a happy place nor is it a comfortable place, yet it is the only place that can crush you into someone that is invincible, beautiful, resilient, and admired. It’s a place that no one would ever choose for themselves to exist in. Living there is difficult, depressing, sad, dark, and often lonely. But if one can endure the elements long enough that this place continually throws at you, then you will surely be something much greater than what you were before you entered. Great people are not born, they are made — just like a stone that over time and through excruciating painful forces becomes a polished gem that is the most cherished of all. To find these kinds of people (the gems), you must look in places that are not so inviting or even easy to find. I know this, because I am one of those people who have endured this place that I speak of, and I am proud to say that I have become a better person from every angle, from within and without, and hopefully for all time.
“The virtues which keep this world sweet and the faithfulness which keeps it steadfast are chiefly those of the average man.”
~ W. Russell Bowie
Perhaps the sweetest thing in this world is being true to those you love the most and them loving you in return. The ability to love is within each of us and belongs to everyone. You don’t have to be educated at an Ivy League school, be a churchgoer at a popular church, have perfect parents, or have a large circle of friends to know how to show your affection and appreciation for the people closest to you. The only requirement needed to manifest your love for someone is with words, action, touch — all done with sincere desire. This is something the average person can do any day of the week and at any time of the day. In being average, we give life to everything around us which gives life to the world in which we live. So, it’s OK to be average as long as you love with all your being and do it faithfully. Doing this makes you awesome!
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“Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you’ll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others.”
“You cannot expect to achieve new goals or move beyond your present circumstances unless you change.”
~ Les Brown
Start doing something new in your life that will improve your overall outlook on life and bring you closer to the ones you love the most. Beginning today, you can improve yourself by making changes that will make you a better person and more attractive to those around you. Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously. Choose wisely. Choose honestly. Choose happiness.
Following is a list of the Top 5 things people regretted most before they died:
1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
Be sure not to allow yourself to experience any of these regrets. Take time to show the ones you love how important they are to you and to your well-being. Just like a flower is to a bee.
Friends for Life
Special thanks to Tim Coffey for use of his illustration.
“Do what you feel in your heart to be right. You’ll be
~ Eleanor Roosevelt
Doing what you want to do in life is your prerogative, so don’t let people get in the way of the choices you make; it’s your life, not theirs. Whether your choice turns out to be a good one or bad one rests entirely with you which is something you should bear since you made the choice. If someone else influences your decision in any way, then you will more than likely point blame their way or have regret. So, do as you like to do and do it on your own. If you want to get what you want in life, you must be powerful even when you appear weak or feel inadequate. Believe, and you will be strong!
Special thanks to Tim Coffey for use of his illustration.
“I’ve got a great ambition to die of exhaustion rather than boredom.”
~ Angus Grossart
Sir Angus Grossart
Are you bored today with nothing to do? If you’re bored in life and can’t think of any reason to find something to do, then do something for the sake of having something to do. Then you will be busy doing something that hopefully at least makes you tired, which is one of the attributes that measure our accomplishments in life. If we’re not working ourselves each day to the point of exhaustion, then we’re not being good stewards to our body. When we exercise our mind and body we are growing and producing something that can nourish and encourage us to do other things that give us motivation to live a more fruitful life. When we utilize the resources within our body to a great extent, it enables us to accomplish much more than if we’re sedentary. Whew! I’m getting tired from just the thought of having to do all the things I have to do today and everyday after.
“People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and, if they can’t find them, make them.”
~ George Bernard Shaw (1856-1950) Irish Playwright
George Bernard Shaw
There are always many ways to look at your current situation in life and wonder how it is you arrived there. You can blame your parents, your friends, your surroundings, your lack of good luck, etc. but when it comes right down to it, you really only have yourself to blame. Many people who had nothing in life have accomplished greats things and conversely, those who were born into wealth and excellent conditions have done very little with their lives. So, it all comes down to what you are willing to do no matter the condition and situation you’re in. If you look for ways to improve your situation in life then you will surely get to a better place. If you choose to feel sorry for yourself and not take responsibility for where you are in life, then you will remain in a state of limbo. You need to make something of yourself by choosing to be somebody who can accomplish wonderful things no matter how big or small. Once you decide WHO you want to be in life, not WHAT you want to be, then you’ll surely find circumstances you can be happy with.
“We forget all too soon the things we thought we could never forget.”
~ Joan Didion
How many times have you forgotten to do something very important that you thought you would never forget? Like the time when you should of called your best friend to comfort them after a tragedy. Or when you didn’t say “I love you” to someone special and then never saw them again. There are lots of things we forget to say or do in our daily grind, so you should record them either on an electronic mobile device or deep in your mind. Then you won’t be caught off guard when someone you know needs to hear the sound of your voice and comforting words. Remembering to do the things you thought you could never forget can have significant meaning to those close to you. Is there someone you should be contacting today?
“The sign of intelligent people is their ability to control emotions by the application of reason.”
~ (1904-1990) American Journalist
Controlling one’s emotions is so important to one’s character and for so many reasons. People judge us very critically based on how we react to certain actions, verbal statements and/or in-actions. If you want to be considered intelligent by your peers and to strangers that you’re in control of yourself in all situations, then all you have to do is not overreact emotionally. To accomplish this, I have found that it is best to think “big picture” so that you always have a clear perspective of the situation. This gives you some control. It’s also a good idea to count to 10 before you react to something. By doing this, you’ll most likely find that by the time you reach number 1, you will have cooled down enough to handle the matter without so much emotion attached to it. Try it next time and see what happens. 10, 9, 8, 7, 6, 5, 4, 3, 2, all is OK now.
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“The worst thing that happens to you may be the best thing for you if you don’t let it get the best of you.”
~ Will Rogers
Think back in your life and try to remember the worst thing that ever happened to you. As you reflect on it today, can you say that is was the worst things in your life or did it turn out to be one of the best things? When something catastrophic occurs in our life, it typically remains a very ugly memory for a period of time. As time works on healing your scars from that incident, life sometimes works on turning that incident into something that makes our life better in some way. If time or life hasn’t worked out the pain or memories from that worst moment in your life yet, then give it some time and it just might turn out to be one of the best things that ever happened to you.
“The soul is made for action, and cannot rest till it be employed. Idleness is its rust.”
~ Thomas Traherne
The soul is the engine of our body. It was made to operate at all speeds and provide us with all the power we need to excel in our life. It needs to be nourished with high-octane fuel that can generate peak performance and longevity. It should be maintained properly so that if can go the distance without fail as we travel along life’s many roads. Is your soul a mo-ped engine or a big block V-8 that can produce more than enough horsepower to get you through life’s many steep hills and treacherous valleys? Whatever size and power your soul’s engine is, make sure you don’t let it sit idle for too long. Not using your body’s engine is the worst thing you can do; it will prevent you from getting you where you need to go in life dependably. Ladies and gentleman…start your engines!
“There is nothing so comfortable as money, but nothing so defiling if it be come by unworthily; nothing so comfortable, but nothing so noxious if the mind be allowed to dwell upon it constantly. If a man have enough, let him spend it freely. If he wants it, let him earn it honestly.”
This quote by an unknown author is one of my favorite quotes concerning the subject of money. It’s simple to understand and should make sense to most anyone who reads it. Following is my take on the quote’s meaning. In the pursuit of making money, don’t go crazy thinking about it or lose yourself while earning it. Spend it freely and as you wish but in such a way that you do good with it. If you can do this, you should be able to live a comfortable lifestyle if you’re able to control yourself from becoming a slave to money. And your overall physical and emotional state of health should improve as well. Don’t ever allow yourself to be corrupted by money and never allow yourself to be loved or admired only for your money. Remember that money can’t buy the most valuable items in life — health, time, friendship and love. Now that’s advice that won’t cost you a dime.
“Tact is the knack of making a point without making an enemy.”
Howard W. Newton
~ Howard W. Newton
tact: a keen sense of what to do or say in order to maintain good relations with others or avoid offense
Would you like to make new friends and keep the friends you have now? Then be more tactful. Saying the right thing at the right time or the wrong thing at the wrong time can be the difference between keeping or losing a friend. And if your words are tactless, then you’ll possibly make an enemy. Words can be either very sharp like a sword or sweet like the taste of honey. Choose your words carefully in every instance when communicating with those you care about. Being tactful in their presence will earn you much respect and admiration. Please consider these tactful words from me to live by.
“Mistakes are part of the dues one pays for a full life.”
~ Sophia Loren (1934- ) Italian Actress
If you want to live a full life, you’re going to have to accept the fact that you’re going to make mistakes along the way. Since life isn’t perfect and neither are we, it shouldn’t be difficult to endure the obstacles you face in your path to a full life. If you reviewed every wonderful person’s life you admire, you would surely see that they committed many mistakes in their life. They would most likely attribute their success to those mistakes, no matter how big or small they were. The worst that can happen when overcoming mistakes is to conquer them, so look at each one as an opportunity to improve yourself. Mistakes will bring you meaningfulness.
“To get your ideas across use small words, big ideas, and short sentences.”
~ John Henry Patterson
John Henry Patterson
For the most part, I write my blog posts in the same manner as described above. My intent is to share ideas that are big in meaning, easy to understand and even easier to apply in our daily lives. Accomplishing this feat is not as easy as it seems when one simply is putting words on a page. Text has no emotion attached to it nor does it have a sound, so my words ought to breath life into the passages I write in my blog in order for them to be felt. That breath must transmit into something that is compelling to the reader in such a way that it moves them into action. The action then becomes a habit that in some way improves their quality of life for a period of time – whether it be a short or very long time. I hope that I am able to make myself perfectly clear to you with my words, no matter how big or small. They are meant to be clever, coercive, concise, crystalline and never confusing.
“The vision that you glorify in your mind, the ideal that you enthrone in your heart – this you will build your life by, and this you will become.”
~ James Lane Allen (1849-1925) American Author
James Lane Allen
Everything you become in life starts in your mind, travels to your soul and then on to your body in the form of a series of actions. These actions are your stamp in life that others will judge you by and remember you from. Because of this, we must create a vision of our self that is inspiring, admirable and lasting so that we can find happiness and success from it. Are you creating a colorful, beautiful and impressionable vision for your life? If not, it’s time to start. If you are, then be sure it is one that will compel people to smile warmly upon them seeing the vision you’ve created for yourself. Care to create and dare to dream!
“The life that conquers is the life that moves with a steady resolution and persistence toward a predetermined goal. Those who succeed are those who have thoroughly learned the immense importance
of a plan in life, and the tragic brevity of time.”
~ W. J. Davison
Do you have a plan for your life, or are you just aimlessly going about your life hoping that it will have a good ending? There are many paths you can take along the life’s journey and taking them alone can be a treacherous experience. That’s why it’s better to travel with others who can guide you in the right way and encourage you when you feel like giving up. Before you venture out on a long trek, have a well-thought out plan with achievable goals and then stick to it as much as possible. It’s always a good idea to make your plans and embark on your journeys without delay because life is short and the opportunity may not be there for you at a later time to experience what could be your greatest adventure. Be sure and have as much fun along the way because you know that there are going to be bad days ahead during your travels. Remember to: “plan your work and work your plan.”
Cosmetics Industrialist Helena Rubinstein
“The things I’ve done in my life have required a lot of years of work before they took off.”
~ Steve Jobs
“I believe in hard work. It keeps the wrinkles out of the mind and spirit.”
~ Helena Rubinstein
Working hard has been my way life for the past 30+ years. It wasn’t my original plan from the beginning, but life often has its own plan that has nothing to do with our own plans. Looking back at the past 30 years and thinking about all the personal pain, crushed dreams, sadness, loss of money, and bittersweet victories I’ve experienced, I can honestly say that all of them have made me what I am today — a more complete man. All of us are a result of all the many things we have experienced in our lives. And according to some, we are exactly where we are supposed to be right at this moment. The one thing that has kept me pushing on when I felt like giving up was the fact that I’ve had an able mind and body. As long as we have the ability to move forward in this world, we should! This is the only way you will ever see the rewards from all your efforts and perseverance. Things take time that are really worth obtaining. So, don’t be afraid to work hard and endure the pains along the way. It’s actually good for you! You just might end up becoming more beautiful intellectually and spiritually from it.
Lady Bird Johnson
“It is wonderful to be in on the creation of something, see it used, and then walk away and smile at it.”
~ Lady Bird Johnson – American First Lady
As someone who has some inventions on the drawing board and who works closely with inventors of new products, I am always proud of the accomplishment in the finished product. But this is just the beginning of another long and expensive phase of product launch. Positioning of the product in the marketplace is vital to the success of a new product. Getting people to buy your product and keep buying it is something that takes lots of genius, skill, cooperation among companies and some luck. Creating something that makes life easier or safer for people or puts a smile on their face is real accomplishment. Do you have something you have invented or want to invent? I urge you to pursue your dream of creating something that would possibly make you lots of money and make life better for people all over the world.
“It is a fine thing to have ability, but the ability to discover ability in others is the true test.”
~ Elbert Hubbard
How much time do you spend looking for your own abilities to improve yourself compared to the time you spend looking for the abilities in others? Those who are close to you can inspire you more than you can inspire yourself if you just let them. Even those who aren’t close to you can inspire you as well, so it’s better to look for the abilities in others so that you may improve your own abilities through the understanding and appreciation of their abilities. Incorporating other’s abilities into your life will increase your capabilities. And being more capable makes you more stable and able.
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
“Let everyone sweep in front of his own door and the whole world will be clean.”
~ Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe
Everyone is so concerned about how everyone else is living their lives that they forget how terrible theirs is. If everyone paid more attention to their own problems and affairs they would begin to see a better world that was brighter, happier, cleaner and less problematic. Focus on what is going on right before you and how you can make it a better environment for all who are around it and you’ll be more concerned about keeping it that way instead of complaining about all the dirt in other people’s lives. Before you tell other’s to clean up their lives, take the mud out of your eyes and sweep the dirt from your path. Make a conscience effort starting today to clean up your own life! Then, the world will be a cleaner place. Did I get that spot?