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Does being “In Love” last forever?

“The difference between ‘Like’, ‘Love’ & ‘In Love’ is the same difference between ‘For Now’, ‘For A While’ & ‘Forever'”

~ Unknown

Everything is temporary in life – life itself, friendship, good times, bad times, memories, and even love.  All we can try to do is to prolong the inevitability of losing what we cherish the most in life. Concerning love, it’s important to understand what love means to you and that your partner understands it too. Two people who are “in love” is much different than loving each other. The difference stems from the commitment, desire, and action put forth to keep the love alive between them. So be sure and recognize the difference between liking someone, loving someone and being “in love” with someone and more importantly, make sure the one you are “in love” with does too. If you can do this successfully, you can obtain something that most only dream of having — true love. Have you done something special for the one you are “in love” with today? If not, do so. Let love reign!

The diet to die for

“A healthy soul needs a steady diet of dreaming, adventure, creativity, friendship, pleasure, and love.”

~ James Filbird

If you want to have a healthy soul that will enable you to truly enjoy all that life can bring you, then follow this diet plan: 
1) A daily dose of dreams that inspire and motivate you
2) An adventure or two each year to someplace exotic and exciting
3) A mixture of creativity, i.e., writing, drawing, painting, singing, dancing, etc.
4)  A batch of friends who will always support and criticize you when you need it
5) An endless amount of pleasure as long as it doesn’t hurt you or anyone else 
6) Sweet love that is shared with all and is never taken for granted 

Instructions: Mix together vigorously each and everyday with passion, purpose, pride and with playful people who enjoy feeding their soul just as much as you do.

Note: This diet is not fattening, but will cause spiritual obesity. Followed properly, this diet will add more years to your life!

Women are wonderful

Portrait of Washington Irving in about 1820.

Portrait of Washington Irving (circa 1820)

“There is in every true woman’s heart a spark of heavenly fire, which lies dormant in the broad daylight of prosperity; but which kindles up, and beams and blazes in the dark hour of adversity.”

~ Washington Irving (1783-1859) American Writer

Successful marriages that are filled with happiness, hope, healing powers, healthy ambition and perpetual love stemming from the fact they have women who do what it takes to keep them together. They find the strength and desire to create an environment for their husband and children that can endure the many hardships that come their way. Women are very instrumental in keeping a family together because of their natural ability to calm men and children who constantly need their care, touch and vocal reassurances. For all the men out there — be sure and show the woman in your life how special she is to you and assure her of your total love for her. She’s more than likely the reason why you are where you are in life.

Give in to greatness

“It is the nature of man to rise to greatness if greatness is expected of him.”

~ John Steinbeck (1902-1968) American Novelist

What is expected of you? To care for your parents, husband, children, friends, job, business, or even yourself. Whatever things you are to take care of, do them well and to the best of your ability and along the way you will find greatness in some form or manner. Don’t do these things to be great but rather do them in earnest and find greatness from them along the way.

My love is alive!

“The consciousness of loving and being loved brings a warmth and richness to life that nothing else can bring.”

~ Oscar Wilde (1854-1900) Irish Dramatist and Poet

If you always strive to be the best you can be as a friend, lover, mate, spouse or human being and do it with sincerity and fullness of heart, you’ll be loved by many. Love, kindness and warmth are contagious which is why everyone who exhibits these traits will find them in their lives.

Thank you for being my friend

“We must find time to stop and thank the people who have made a difference in our lives.”

~ Dan Zadra

“Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear and the blind can see.”

~ Mark Twain

“Nothing is ever lost by courtesy. It is the cheapest of pleasures, costs nothing, and conveys much.”

~ Erastus Wiman

For me, courtesy and kindness are absolute requirements between friends. It’s easy to be courteous and kind to those you consider your friends and doing it brings much delight to them. Showing sincere and heartfelt appreciation to friends is something money and gifts cannot substitute. In fact, money won’t even buy them. So, since it is free to give and abundantly found, there is no excuse for not being courteous and kind to those you truly appreciate. Try it more often and see just how happy you make others feel. That happiness you give them will fill your heart. Think of someone you can thank for their friendship, kindness or help and contact them and tell them how much you appreciate them for being a friend.

What is controlling you?

“He who reigns within himself and rules his passions, desires, and fears is more than a king.”

~ John Milton (1608-1674) English Poet

In life, we try to control many aspects of it that we actually cannot control. You should only focus on the things you can control, i.e., your passions, desires and fears. If you can learn to conquer this feat, then you will gain personal power, thusly achieving most anything that is within your ability.

Are you a prudent student?

“A prudent man will think more important what fate has conceded to him, than what it has denied.”

~ Baltasar Gracian (1601-1658) Spanish Philosopher

To become a good student of life, you must be prudent. This means you are intelligent, judicious, discreet, and judgmatic.  Life is full of crossroads that require us to be all of these adjectives. Learn how to be a prudent student of life and you’ll probably end up right where you want to be.

The songstress of my heart

“A friend hears the song in my heart and sings it to me when my memory fails.”

~ Unknown

You know you have a true friend when they can see and hear your inner expressions without you ever telling them anything.  When two people begin to see each other in one another, then they have reached the pinnacle of their earthly love. From that place in life, we can hear the songs in the hearts of those we truly love. Oh how I desire a woman who can sing the songs in my heart when I have long forgotten them. I can hear a lullaby in the distance now…

Love requires no conditions

“Intense love does not measure, it just gives.”

~ Mother Teresa

When you are in a love relationship, there shouldn’t be any conditions attached to it. If someone can’t love you unconditionally, then you will be in a competitive and most likely an unhappy relationship. Real love isn’t about having to perform to some level for someone else or living up to their expectations. Love is all about giving freely and ACCEPTANCE!

“Love Song”

This is one of my favorite songs sung by one of my favorite artists.

Love Song
written by: Leslie Duncan
Vocals: Elton John and Lesley Duncan
Acoustic guitar and backing vocals: Lesley Duncan
The words I have to say
May well be simple but they’re true
Until you give your love
There’s nothing more that we can do

Love is the opening door
Love is what we came here for
No one could offer you more
Do you know what I mean
Have your eyes really seen

You say it’s very hard
To leave behind the life we knew
But there’s no other way
And now it’s really up to you

Love is the key we must turn
Truth is the flame we must burn
Freedom the lesson we must learn
Do you know what I mean
Have your eyes really seen

Love is the opening door
Love is what we came here for
No one could offer you more
Do you know what I mean
Have your eyes really seen…

What is love? It’s the act of placing another person’s interests above your own.

Below is the very best description and definition of what love is to me. It is taken from the Bible in the “Love chapter” found in Corinthians I:13 and reads like this:

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking,  it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”

Love, such a complex word to fully understand, yet something that is desired more than anything in life by all who are human. We are born from it, live by it, marry into it, and sometimes die for it. We can never really learn the true meaning of it unless we have had the good fortune of seeing it first-hand in our lives growing up. Unfortunately, few people are lucky enough to have been born into a family environment that fosters a life that is based on this type of love. Additionally, everyone is subjected to life in a world that is not fair, true, or based on real love. Instead, we are taught to be selfish, greedy, possessive and independent. Knowing this, how can real love ever have a chance in this world? Does real love conquer all? If so, when and how? I don’t know. I wished I had the answers to these questions so I could share them with you.

What I do know is that the reason why real love is unattainable is that many of the requirements of this kind of love are very difficult to achieve and maintain. For example, when was the last time you forgot when someone did something wrong to you?; or the last time you kept moving forward in the face of adversity and pain?; or always wanted to do the best for others and not for yourself?; or always told the truth to your friends and/or your lover? When was the last time you were true to yourself, let alone to others?

Now you can see why real love is so hard to attain even though we are all able to obtain it if we really want to. What must be done to bring forth this kind of love to all? I believe we must start with giving children a proper and sincere example of love – from both their parents and extended family. Then it should be practiced by all: fathers, mothers, grandparents, uncles, cousins, best friends, husbands, and wives. Try your best to consider others before yourself and always have hope and happiness in your heart so that you can encourage others to live a life based on this kind of love. Peace and love to you because love never dies!