“To avoid disappointment in life, don’t attach an expectation to an outcome.”
When there is an expected result desired no matter the situation, there is always a good chance that you’ll experience disappointment. This disappointment can lead to anger, especially if it involves something between friends, family or lovers. If you’re not able to rise above this type of situation peacefully, the first thing that most people experience is anger, animosity or even hatred. At this point, this is when your mind has taken over your other bodily senses and closed off your inner power and intellect. Then, it’s easy to become angry, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not easy to achieve.
So, the next time you become angry at someone, remember to try not to attach an expectation to whatever made you angry in the first place. And also remember the exact dose of anger you exert, and at what time, and for what purpose could be the difference between a broken friendship or relationship and one that has grown closer than ever before. If you can accomplish this, then you’re on your way to achieving spiritual and physical maturity.
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“Most everyone’s reality is a blend of their past experiences, their expectations, and what they think they see or feel. This, unfortunately is not true reality at all. Many events we witness or are exposed to are not exactly as we think they are. So in fact, life just full of instances and visions clouded in mystery and untruths based on one’s own view of reality. Therefore, everyone’s reality is what they want it to be, not what it truly is.”
~ James Filbird
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“Your thoughts do not care about you. They only want to perpetuate themselves.”
Animated brain scan.
Always be mindful of what you’re thinking whether it be in deep thought or just a fleeting thought, because your thoughts have tremendous power behind them. Studies have shown that the mind can control your heartbeat, your blood pressure, body temperature, bodily pain, etc. Under our own initiative, our brain can produce important cells, tissues, amino acids, antigens, and many other bodily elements just like it does every day automatically. Just like the food we eat produces the kind of physical health we have, what our brain produces gives us the kind of mental health we have. What’s very important to remember is that our brain is responsible for basically our entire health, so make it a habit to always feed your mind with positive thoughts. If you’re wondering where the positive thoughts come from that feed the brain, well they come from the soul. The two are intricately woven together working as the source and the power behind all we do.
I encourage you to read this very informative article entitled: 10 Amazing Examples of Mind Over Matter at http://tinyurl.com/n3hskva
“ The greatest waste in the world is the difference between what we are and what we could become. ”
~ Ben Herbster
We are what we are, and we are where we are in life because of all the actions we have taken and choices we have made up to this point. If you’re not happy with where you are now and who are you now in life, then initiate a change in your life for the better. To change a pattern or habit you’re not happy with and convert it into something positive, you need to imagine your day being just the way you wanted it to be and relishing the moment you’re in during this time. You can do it during a quiet time — while you’re about to sleep, or when you just wake up, or during lunchtime, or while on a break. It should be a meditative experience so you can completely feel the effects of the positive thinking permeate into your mind and soul. Do this everyday and eventually you will see improvements in your life to some extent. Just be sure and record the mistakes that you made during that day so that you don’t do them again, or do them differently so the outcome is beneficial for you. It’s all about relating your experiences each day to the ones that you want to be living. Have fun making changes for the better in your life and becoming the person you want to be!
“He who finds diamonds must grapple in mud and mire because diamonds are not found in polished stones. They are made.”
~ Henry B. Wilson
A scattering of “brilliant” cut diamonds.
To become something that is brilliant from every angle, from within and without, sometimes you must live a life in the dirtiest place on earth. This place is not a happy place nor is it a comfortable place, yet it is the only place that can crush you into someone that is invincible, beautiful, resilient, and admired. It’s a place that no one would ever choose for themselves to exist in. Living there is difficult, depressing, sad, dark, and often lonely. But if one can endure the elements long enough that this place continually throws at you, then you will surely be something much greater than what you were before you entered. Great people are not born, they are made — just like a stone that over time and through excruciating painful forces becomes a polished gem that is the most cherished of all. To find these kinds of people (the gems), you must look in places that are not so inviting or even easy to find. I know this, because I am one of those people who have endured this place that I speak of, and I am proud to say that I have become a better person from every angle, from within and without, and hopefully for all time.
“The beauty of the soul shines out when a man bears with composure one heavy mischance after another, not because he does not feel them, but because he is a man of high and heroic temper.”
The human spirit is mighty. Throughout our lives, we are faced with circumstances that force us to look deep within ourselves to find what is good so that we can do amazing things for others in need. When something bad happens to another person, whether you know them personally or not, you feel compelled to reach out to them from the depth of your heart and help them get to a place of comfort, safety and peace. You can do this through prayer, a financial contribution, or with a helping hand. This temperament is displayed often when tragedy strikes and is one of characteristics that make the human species unique from most all other earthly creatures. This very type of behaviour must also be used when we find ourselves in a difficult place in life. All too often, we neglect our own needs when we are faced with a tragedy, depression, weakness, etc. It’s very important to remember that as individuals, we need to be heroic for ourselves too. In doing so, we keep our own soul shining so that we are available to assist others in keeping their souls shining too.
Special thanks to Tim Coffey for his use of this illustration.
“If we could read the secret history of our enemies, we should find in each man’s life sorrow and suffering enough to disarm all hostility.”
~ Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
One of the hardest things to do is love your enemy. If you really ponder the fact that all our enemies are just like we are in that they desire the same things we desire. They want freedom, power, peace, love, a place to call their homeland, money, religious rights, etc. just like we do. But for many centuries, people have been fighting amongst themselves and with other cultures and nations creating havoc, unspeakable tragedies, and untold sufferings. What can we attribute this to? Is it because men dominate world affairs and women don’t? Is it because humans are more animalistic than they are spiritual? Is it because this is man’s destiny — to always be at war? Whatever the reason, it’s pitiful that people of all races, religions, and creed do not look for ways to live in harmony as much as they look for ways to become more powerful and destructive. If people in power took the time to look into the hearts of their “enemies” perhaps they would find the answers the perplexing questions posed above. Peace to all.