“To avoid disappointment in life, don’t attach an expectation to an outcome.”
When there is an expected result desired no matter the situation, there is always a good chance that you’ll experience disappointment. This disappointment can lead to anger, especially if it involves something between friends, family or lovers. If you’re not able to rise above this type of situation peacefully, the first thing that most people experience is anger, animosity or even hatred. At this point, this is when your mind has taken over your other bodily senses and closed off your inner power and intellect. Then, it’s easy to become angry, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way – this is not easy to achieve.
So, the next time you become angry at someone, remember to try not to attach an expectation to whatever made you angry in the first place. And also remember the exact dose of anger you exert, and at what time, and for what purpose could be the difference between a broken friendship or relationship and one that has grown closer than ever before. If you can accomplish this, then you’re on your way to achieving spiritual and physical maturity.
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The work will wait while you show the child the rainbow, but the rainbow won’t wait while you finish the work.
~ Pat Clifford
If you have a child(ren) in your life, then be sensitive to the fact that time won’t wait for you to find time to spend with them. Make a daily effort to spend time with your offspring so they can grow up in a way that you want them to grow up. Children are directly effected by how much effort we put into their lives. This effort comes from your commitment to make the time to help them become people you will be proud of and who will be proud of you for all the time you give to them. The best use of your time is the time you give to others; so make sure you give more time to the ones you bring into this world than those who don’t matter as much to you in the end. Put children before your work so they can enjoy the many colors of the rainbow and more importantly, your colors.
“When nothing is sure, everything is possible.”
~ Margaret Drabble (1939-) English Novelist
Not sure what you want in life or how to get it? Having a clean slate with regard to what is possible or not is the first step in finding what you want. Another very important element to getting what you want in life is a positive attitude that gives you the momentum each day to persistently progress. To do this, you need to treat everyday as if it is a party and you’re celebrating all the opportunities you have in life. Since everyday your alive is a gift for yourself and others, be sure and invite your friends and loved ones to your party everyday and celebrate life. Remember that it’s OK to get drunk on life and love because the hangover is healthy and heals whatever ails you. Party on!
Having a Ball
Special thanks to Tim Coffey for letting me use his illustration in this post. You can view his blog at: http://timcoffeyart.wordpress.com
“Tact is the knack of making a point without making an enemy.”
Howard W. Newton
~ Howard W. Newton
tact: a keen sense of what to do or say in order to maintain good relations with others or avoid offense
Would you like to make new friends and keep the friends you have now? Then be more tactful. Saying the right thing at the right time or the wrong thing at the wrong time can be the difference between keeping or losing a friend. And if your words are tactless, then you’ll possibly make an enemy. Words can be either very sharp like a sword or sweet like the taste of honey. Choose your words carefully in every instance when communicating with those you care about. Being tactful in their presence will earn you much respect and admiration. Please consider these tactful words from me to live by.
“Just remember, once you’re over the hill you begin to pick up speed.”
Getting old isn’t so bad as long as you look on the bright side of aging – just like Schopenhauer did when he wrote the brilliant statement above. There are definitely advantages to growing old that help people understand life in a more lovely way. When one has matured enough, they can see life as those who are younger cannot because they can see over the “fence” that blinds those who aren’t experienced or mature enough to see over it. Even if someone is able to peer over the “fence” that wiser, aged people can see over, it doesn’t mean that they will comprehend what they see. So, for all you young people reading this, find yourself a mature, wise mentor who can steer you in the right direction as you travel along life’s long, perplexing and troublesome journey. Be sure and bring your crash helmet because people “over the hill” travel faster than you do. Just keep on truckin’ at full speed.
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A jolly old man
“Humor is an affirmation of dignity, a declaration of man’s superiority to all that befalls him.”
~ Romain Gary (1914-1980) French Writer
Laughter is the best medicine for depression. This is a widely-known fact. It’s why comedians from all over the world are some of the most beloved people and also among the highest paid performers in the world. The thing that inspires us to laugh is the ability to have a good sense of humor (one that cheers us up and also those around us) that is worth sharing with others. Sharing your humorous personality builds your mental attitude and character in a way that nothing else can. A smile is contagious and so is laughter — so laugh your ass off even when it seems silly to do so in spite of what others may think. You’ll be happy you did. And it’s likely that those who think you’re silly will find you amusing and maybe a bit strange. Now that’s something really worth smiling about. Smile away!
“People have a way of becoming what you encourage them to be — not what you nag them to be.”
~ S.N. Parker
Nellie the Nagger
1. To scold, complain, or find fault constantly
2. To be a constant source of anxiety or annoyance
If you want to push someone away from you emotionally; destroy their confidence; make them angry; or show your true colors – then constantly tell them how they are doing things wrong or how much you dislike them or dislike what they’re doing. Nagging is not only negative, it’s destructive. It is the cause of many breakups in relationships of all kinds and only shows how immature and selfish you are when doing it. Starting today, make a conscience effort to not nag when dealing with someone you care about. Don’t be a nag. You’ll keep friendships alive and you’ll also mature in the process. Now that’s something to brag about!
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