Nag, nag, nag!

“People have a way of becoming what you encourage them to be – not what you nag them to be.”

~ S.N. Parker

Nellie the Nagger

nag

1. To scold, complain, or find fault constantly

2. To be a constant source of anxiety or annoyance

If you want to push someone away from you emotionally; destroy their confidence; make them angry; or show your true colors – then constantly tell them how they are doing things wrong or how much you dislike them or dislike what they’re doing. Nagging is not only negative, it’s destructive. It is the cause of many breakups in relationships of all kinds and only shows how immature and selfish you are when doing it. Starting today, make a conscience effort to not nag when dealing with someone you care about. Don’t be a nag. You’ll keep friendships alive and you’ll also mature in the process. Now that’s something to brag about!

Who are you?

Personality Chart

You can generally place people in four quadrants: Amiable; Expressive; Analytical; and Driver.

If you want to increase your success of building better business and/or personal relationships, then first you need to understand what kind of person you are among the 4 quadrants listed above. I am in between Amiable and Expressive with some Analytical. Since I know what kind of person I am, I know I need to find others who share my personality pattern if I want the best chance at a successful relationship. Two people who get along in a friendly manner are also inclined to work well together too. So, there really aren’t any negative factors with finding people who are more like you since you’re most suitable as best friends and/or doing business together. This is a perfect marriage that can bring forth wonderful benefits. If you want to sharpen the other personality types that you don’t possess, then make some new friends who fit those types and you’ll be on your way to finding: stress, love/hate emotions, fear, passion play, bitterness, self-reflection, etc. Aren’t relationships fun. My advice: Always be on the lookout for someone who is just like you.

Little, small, tiny = BIG

Give 'til it hurts!

“Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realize they were the big things.”

~ Robert Brault

You’ve probably heard the phrase: “Don’t sweat the small stuff, because life is full of small stuff.” The same applies to enjoying all the small things in life because life is full of small things. In fact, in life, it’s all the small things that add up to be the biggest things we cherish and remember the most. When you receive many small gifts over time from someone you care for, it always means more to you than if you received one large gift at once. The reason is that you have more memories from all the moments you received those small gifts which leave a pleasant thought in your mind. If you receive one big gift, the memory is short-lived even though it might be a very special gift. So, as you live your life, learn to enjoy the little things and attach a nice memory to them so that you can relish all of them as if it were the biggest thing that ever happened to you in your life. The secret to this is to be able to recognize when the little things come into your life, otherwise they could become unhappy big things. Give freely and give often!

Does being “In Love” last forever?

“The difference between ‘Like’, ‘Love’ & ‘In Love’ is the same difference between ‘For Now’, ‘For A While’ & ‘Forever'”

~ Unknown

Everything is temporary in life – life itself, friendship, good times, bad times, memories, and even love.  All we can try to do is to prolong the inevitability of losing what we cherish the most in life. Concerning love, it’s important to understand what love means to you and that your partner understands it too. Two people who are “in love” is much different than loving each other. The difference stems from the commitment, desire, and action put forth to keep the love alive between them. So be sure and recognize the difference between liking someone, loving someone and being “in love” with someone and more importantly, make sure the one you are “in love” with does too. If you can do this successfully, you can obtain something that most only dream of having — true love. Have you done something special for the one you are “in love” with today? If not, do so. Let love reign!

A life without regret

“If success is not on your own terms – if it looks good to the world but does not feel good in your own heart – it is no success at all.”

~ Anna Quindlen

“When you reach the end of your life, do you want to be one of the people who are glad they did, or one of the people who wish they had?”

~ Anonymous

“Make yourself an honest man, and then you may be sure that there is one less scoundrel in the world.”

~ Thomas Carlyle (1795-1881) Scottish Writer

“The best inheritance you can leave your kids is an example of how to live a full and meaningful life.”

~ Dan Zadra

Do you want to live a life that is above reproach and admired by others for generations? Do you want to feel good about yourself and live a fruitful existence in this crazy world? Do you seek happiness for yourself, your family, and for others? Then follow the advice in the quotes above.  Be successful by doing what is best for yourself and others without regret.

Women are wonderful

Portrait of Washington Irving (circa 1820)

“There is in every true woman’s heart a spark of heavenly fire, which lies dormant in the broad daylight of prosperity; but which kindles up, and beams and blazes in the dark hour of adversity.”

~ Washington Irving (1783-1859) American Writer

Successful marriages that are filled with happiness, hope, healing powers, healthy ambition and perpetual love stemming from the fact they have women who do what it takes to keep them together. They find the strength and desire to create an environment for their husband and children that can endure the many hardships that come their way. Women are very instrumental in keeping a family together because of their natural ability to calm men and children who constantly need their care, touch and vocal reassurances. For all the men out there — be sure and show the woman in your life how special she is to you and assure her of your total love for her. She’s more than likely the reason why you are where you are in life.

Try, try, and try again!

Francis Bacon

“There is no comparison between that which is lost by not succeeding and that which is lost by not trying.”

~ Francis Bacon

The only failure in not succeeding at something is not trying your best. Whether it be love, friendship or business, you must always do the best you can with what you have at our disposal to succeed. It’s important to know what you want to succeed at and how you measure the success you seek. If you don’t know exactly what you want to succeed at, how to obtain it, and when you want it, then you will fail. Plan your work and work your plan. Keep yourself fixed on your goal(s) and don’t let anything or anyone stop you. You are all you need to succeed!