“To avoid disappointment in life, don’t attach an expectation to an outcome.”
When there is an expected result desired no matter the situation, there is always a good chance that you’ll experience disappointment. This disappointment can lead to anger, especially if it involves something between friends, family or lovers. If you’re not able to rise above this type of situation peacefully, the first thing that most people experience is anger, animosity or even hatred. At this point, this is when your mind has taken over your other bodily senses and closed off your inner power and intellect. Then, it’s easy to become angry, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not easy to achieve.
So, the next time you become angry at someone, remember to try not to attach an expectation to whatever made you angry in the first place. And also remember the exact dose of anger you exert, and at what time, and for what purpose could be the difference between a broken friendship or relationship and one that has grown closer than ever before. If you can accomplish this, then you’re on your way to achieving spiritual and physical maturity.
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“Originality and the feeling of one’s own dignity are achieved only through work and struggle.”
~ Fyodor Dostoyevsky (1821-1881) Russian Novelist
Struggling with difficulties in some sort of way is one of the necessary evils we must accept in our lives as we aspire to reach our personal and professional goals. One of the best methods to overcome these difficulties that you will face each and everyday is meditation. According to experts, the most powerful healing tool for stress and prolonged life is meditation. It clears the mind of thought and lets a person concentrate on tranquility. Fifteen minutes of meditation has been shown to produce a much more relaxed state of mind than one hour of the deepest sleep. Even starting the day with just two minutes of meditation can be beneficial. Sit with your spine erect and try to quiet your thoughts; it may help to concentrate on one word. So, starting today, help yourself reach your goals while maintaining your health and spiritual balance by meditating at some point during the day. If you already meditate, then encourage someone else you know to start doing the same. Instead of singing, I’m going to start meditating during my shower time. La la la, hum, la la la, hum, hum, la la…
Special thanks to Tim Coffey for use of his illustration.
“True religion is the life we lead, not the creed we profess.”
~ Louis Nizer (1902-1994) American Lawyer
Religion is many things to many people. It’s what you want it to be no matter what god you believe in. The most important religion is the one that leaves a good impression on others. One that motivates people from any ethnicity to listen to their soul instead of their flesh. If your religion makes you a better person who serves others, is concerned for others, cares for others and desires to make the world a better place, then that is the best religion. As long as you don’t hurt yourself or anyone else, then you are living an honorable life that is moralistic and humane. Go live your life with love and honor, because it’s a gift. Share it with someone today!
“Maturity is achieved when a person postpones immediate pleasures for long-term values.”
~ Joshua L. Liebman
You can’t grow into a wise, admirable and capable person if you’re not willing to invest in the time and energy it takes to learn the necessary requirements to become a mature being. As we travel along life’s path, we encounter situations and circumstances that allow us to mature. Sometimes, we are faced with making choices that involve doing something that would mature us over doing something that would bring us instant gratification and/or some reward. If you accept the instant pleasures, then you are short-changing yourself. Choose to grow through maturity, which is always more rewarding, more inspirational, and more fulfilling.
Statue of Confucius in Shenyang, China
“What you do not wish for yourself, do not do to others.”
Zi gong (a disciple of Confucius) asked: “Is there any one word that could guide a person throughout life?”
The Master replied: “How about ‘shu’ [reciprocity]: never impose on others what you would not choose for yourself?”
If you want to make a substantial improvement in your life, then start by doing more for yourself rather than asking others to do things for you. Don’t be a burden to others if you’re able to do something by yourself. You’d be surprised how much we ask of our family and friends. You’d also be surprised to know that doing more yourself will make you smarter, more confident and less dependent. Start today by doing more for yourself which will allow others to do more for themselves. Liberate others and yourself!
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Crest of Integrity
“Confidence on the outside begins by living with integrity on the inside.”
~ Brian Tracy
Confidence without integrity is nothing more than arrogance. Integrity is the key ingredient for anyone wanting to live a life that’s beyond reproach, and is esteemed, honorable, and desirable. If you want a strong coat of confidence to help you through life, you need to be full of integrity to the very core of your existence. This combination gives you something that is untouchable and enviable; so do all you can to build yourself into someone who is known for doing the right things at the right time to the right people. Right on!
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“What a man is contributes much more to his happiness than what he has, or how he is regarded by others.”
~ Arthur Schopenhauer
The key thing to understand about this quote is what the exact meaning of “What a man is” is. By what methods do we measure someone to classify them as someone who is a good person or not? To me, it all comes down to one thing: “You have only one life to live here on earth, so you must do as much as you can to improve the lives of other people.” You don’t have to be super-rich or famous to do this; you just need a giving heart. It’s not about how much money you make in your life that you’ll be judged by, or how attractive you are, or even how popular you are to other people. Making a real indelible difference in this world is done by people who give whatever they can – money, talent, time, energy, etc. to help others be better people. This is how people should be judged in the end.
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